Are You Ready To Have Sex?
This video talks about the signs and symptoms of pregnancy as well as where to get a pregnancy test. The video encourages youth who think they are pregnant to speak with a trusted adult and to see a health care provider. It then provides non-judgemental descriptions of the three pregnancy options: parenting, adoption, and abortion and affirms that the only person that can decide what option is best is the person who is pregnant. [AMZ-046]
Youth
Only you know when you’re really ready to have sex. As you grow up, you will begin to get clear about what you are or aren’t ready for sexually. Talking to adults you trust can also help. When the time comes, it’s important to talk with a partner who cares for and respects you. You should feel comfortable talking about what you’re both comfortable with sexually and how you’ll prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and/or pregnancy.
FAQs
Most young people wait to have sex until they’re about 18. Only 41 percent of high school students have ever had sex, and very few have sex before getting to high school. Even though it might seem like a lot of people your age are having sex, it’s totally normal to wait until you’re older and ready.
Deciding to have sex for the first time or with a new person is a big decision, and only you can decide if you’re ready. Think about your relationship with the person and whether you care for, trust and respect each other. Make sure the two of you have talked about why you want to have sex, how it might change your relationship, and how you will prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and/or pregnancy. It could also be a good idea to talk to a parent or another trusted adult. If you’re not really sure how you feel or if talking about sex feels uncomfortable, you might not be ready to have sex.
You always have the right to decide not to have sex, even if you’ve done it before. If you don’t feel comfortable or if you’re unsure about continuing to have sex with a partner, it’s totally okay to change your mind, even in the middle of it. A caring, supportive partner will respect your decision.
Parents
Sexual development is a normal and healthy part of adolescent development, but most young people (around age 14 and younger) are not yet ready for sex. It’s generally best for young people to explore sexuality in a loving, committed relationship.
People decide for themselves with whom and when they feel ready to have sex. In order to decide, it can be helpful for young people to think through how they feel about their partner, how their partner feels about and treats them, how they will protect themselves from STDs and/or pregnancy, and what things they do and don’t want to do sexually. If young people do not feel comfortable talking with a partner about these things, it’s a good indication that they’re not ready to have sex with that partner or at all.
Many people feel ready to have sex during their teen years and many do not. It’s important to wait until each partner feels confident about the decision before doing anything sexual. Just because someone has had sex with one person, does not mean they must have sex with their next partner. Each person, relationship and situation is unique.
Talking with a parent or another trusted adult about how to make decisions about sex can be a positive source of support for young people.
CONVERSATION STARTERS
Starting a conversation about sex with a young person doesn’t have to be awkward or scary. Here are some ways you can start these conversations:
It seemed like their relationship moved pretty fast. What did you think? Did that seem realistic to you? How do you think someone can know if they’re ready to have sex?
How long do most of your friends go out before they decide to have sex?
Educators
Sexual development is a normal and healthy part of adolescent development, but most young people (around age 14 and younger) are not yet ready for sex. It’s generally best for young people to explore sexuality in a loving, committed relationship.
People decide for themselves with whom and when they feel ready to have sex. In order to decide, it can be helpful for young people to think through how they feel about their partner, how their partner feels about and treats them, how they will protect themselves from STDs and/or pregnancy, and what things they do and don’t want to do sexually. If young people do not feel comfortable talking with a partner about these things, it’s a good indication that they’re not ready to have sex with that partner or at all.
Many people feel ready to have sex during their teen years and many do not. It’s important to wait until each partner feels confident about the decision before doing anything sexual. Just because someone has had sex with one person, does not mean they must have sex with their next partner. Each person, relationship and situation is unique.
Talking with a parent or another trusted adult about how to make decisions about sex can be a positive source of support for young people.
National Sex Education Standards
Explain the relationship between consent, personal boundaries, and bodily autonomy
Demonstrate communication skills that will support healthy relationships
Identify factors that are important in deciding whether and when to engage in sexual behaviors
Develop a plan to eliminate or reduce risk of unintended pregnancy or STDs (including HIV)
Demonstrate ways to communicate decisions about whether or when to engage in sexual behaviors and how to reduce or eliminate risk for pregnancy and/or STDs (including HIV)
Evaluate a variety of characteristics of romantic and/or sexual relationships and determine which ones are personally most important
International Technical Guidance on Sexuality Education
Consent, Privacy and Bodily Integrity
Decision-making
Sexual Behaviour and Sexual Response
Sexual Behaviour and Sexual Response
Discussion Questions
- What are some myths the characters in the video believe about sex?
- What does the video say about how to know if you’re ready for sex?
- Why do you think the characters in the video feel confused about whether or not they are ready for sex? How common is it for people your age to feel that way?
- What can you do if you’re unsure about whether you are ready for sex?
